When people hear the word “rejection,” most of the time, they look at it as a negative moment. Regardless of if they got rejected by a job, a sports team, a school or, the most common experience, another person, they will typically look at it as an awful moment.
With this, people tend to feel sadness and anger. They usually only think of the dismissive outcomes and are overtaken by negative emotions.
This applies to even the celebrities you may look up to. All of those star athletes, actors, singers and influencers have gone through the sadness and anger that rejection brings.
People tend to feel like this because rejection takes them in a different direction that they didn’t want to head originally. Yet, refusal isn’t always as bad as it seems. There are also some positive outcomes to it as well, but many just haven’t realized it.
Think about a moment when you were rejected. You were probably angry or cried or screamed the phrases, “My life is over!” or “What am I going to do now?”
There is a high chance that whatever happened afterwards isn’t what you wanted. But it is also likely that there is something there that is better than what you were looking for originally.
These good things could be finding a job that you love, a team that appreciates your talent, a school that’s just right for you or a person who truly loves and cares about you.
Good things like this come from rejection. You’ll never truly know how good of a future you can have if you were given everything that you planned for or wanted.
There is a saying that I personally like to say when coping with any sort of rejection: “What’s mine, is mine, and what’s not, is not.”
The meaning behind this saying is that what’s meant to be will eventually find me no matter what. Meanwhile, if it’s not meant to be, then it won’t become mine, no matter what I try to do.
Naturally, people don’t know for sure what’s theirs and what’s not. But what we should know is that it is okay to let certain things go and that we should never try to force something we want to happen.
Rejection doesn’t always have to be something painful. It can be something that builds us as people, something that gives us opportunity or something that shows us a future we never knew existed.
Everyone has their own story, and a little rejection is just the start of a whole new chapter. When you look back at the moment you thought was so awful, also look back at what good came out of it as well.
